RPAGF Chapter 265 The Older Generation Seems to Like to Owe Favors
Chapter 265 The Older Generation Seems to Like to Owe Favors
[Why do the older generation seem to like owing favors to others? 】
[Maybe because of the times, the older generation likes to use connections to do everything, and they still like to use this method until now]
[In 20, when I changed jobs, my father insisted on introducing me to a warehouse manager at a pharmaceutical company. After working there for a week, I had a severe allergy and the salary was not enough to cover the medical expenses.]
[I went to attend my cousin's wedding. I could have taken a taxi for just over 20 RMB, but my uncle insisted that I take a car from someone I knew. I ended up waiting for two hours before someone picked me up. I missed the wedding ceremony, and my uncle even asked me to buy something for them.]
[This has to do with my experience with the 3-valent vaccine. At first, I queued up for the vaccine by myself but never got a chance. My boyfriend said he had a friend who asked for me at a community hospital, and it turned out that three shots cost 1 yuan. Sure enough, acquaintances are the best at cheating acquaintances. ]
"Their old ways are no longer suitable for this era, but they refuse to admit it, thinking "I have eaten more salt than you have eaten rice." Maybe they even think they are smart and suggest that the younger generation come to the company early every day to clean up and pour water for others, so as to leave a good impression on the boss and colleagues [covering face]"
"My mom said the exact same thing, telling me to go to the office early to clean the floor when I was doing internship (damn, her company has a cleaning staff)"
"The older generation in Shanxi really had connections ingrained in us.
This just happened today. An uncle's child wanted to take the civil service exam and asked me for my experience. I suggested that he should practice more questions and work hard every day to keep up with the exam. If he can't concentrate at home, he can go to the library or study room.
Someone next to me immediately said that xxx's friend runs a study room. If you want to find a study room for your child, ask him to ask for you. I thought to myself, there are study rooms everywhere, so why bother looking for someone?"
"When it comes to money, don't ask friends or acquaintances to do it. Find a professional to do it yourself. If it's done well, you can pay them. If it's not done well, you can tell them directly. If you ask an acquaintance to do a bad job, it will be really difficult. You will feel embarrassed to say that you owe them a favor. If you ask an acquaintance to do it, be prepared to lose money, otherwise the relationship will easily be ruined."
"I get angry when I talk about this! When we were renovating our new house, I told her not to find someone she knew to do it. What's the point of saving that little money? What if the job is not done well? My mother refused and asked my uncle to do it. My uncle is not a professional, he is a half-baked worker. He also hired a decorator himself, and he didn't even use the design drawings before laying the wires! The wires were laid in a mess! It makes me angry!"
"My friend, your idea is right. For matters like renovation that are prone to disputes, you can't ask acquaintances for help, and it's hard to protect your rights. The older generation really seems to be stuck in this regard [disappointed]"
"I'm over 50, so I'm considered an older generation. My lifelong principle is: never use favors to solve problems that can be solved with money, and things that can be solved with money are not a big deal!"
"My family is the type that doesn't suffer hardship [shame] Every time my parents have relatives coming over, they ask me to go and receive them. I go downstairs to pick them up and take them out to play, and they say I'm a "tour guide [black potato question mark]"
I don’t like having guests at home and I don’t know how to entertain relatives. When I tell my parents about it, they call me an ungrateful person. These are all your relatives. When your parents are gone, you can still ask your relatives for help when you have problems. [Petrochemical][Petrochemical][Petrochemical] Help me, I really do.”
"My mom's logic is even worse. When I was studying abroad, she told me to ask my tutor for help. I said I didn't have much friendship with my tutor, and I couldn't even coax him, so I bothered him. My mom said that the student asked the teacher to do something, and the teacher was not happy to do it?
I asked her where she got this conclusion from. She said that if you ask someone to do something for you, you have to respect him. I said, then you should never respect others. Speechless.
Our ancestors felt wronged: We don’t always think about asking our acquaintances for favors and owing them favors.
I just want to use this little thing to bother my relatives whom I haven't seen for a long time, and deepen our connection and personal relationships.
What if the other party forgets about you after not contacting you for a long time? Then you will stay in the village all day without any sense of existence, and people will not remember that you exist!
There are also some ancestors who like to ask acquaintances for help and make excuses: So what? Maybe you have met bad relatives and they are not able to help you but make things worse.
It’s different for our relatives. They take us along when they get promoted and get rich.
A few days ago, we had a scholar named Wang. After wandering outside for a few years, he came back to us to teach the children in the village who could not go to school.
This made everyone in the village very happy. Which village in the surrounding area could be so lucky?
Only our village has it!
Even the tuition for his studies was only half of that of the private school in the town. My family had a good relationship with his grandfather five years ago. Later, we talked to him, gave him gifts, and asked him to take care of my eldest child.
Now my eldest child always sits in the front row of the school, closest to Mr. Wang, and can hear Mr. Wang’s lectures very clearly!
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Unlike others, Uncle Li, who has always been a loner in the village, is envious of those who can owe favors to them: no matter what happens to them, at least they have acquaintances who can help them.
As a hunter, I don't have any acquaintances or friends. I can only rely on myself, and I still can't even find a wife.